Save The Marriage By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. |
| 3/18/2008 5:44:53 PM |
After Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D., author of Save The Marriage was asked the same message repeatedly, he realize he need to answer it.
The question lately has been "should I share your ebook and/or online ecourse with my spouse?" The question comes from when there is a spouse who is upset about the marriage, and the other spouse has found some answers.
You see, so many people have a "paradigm shift" about what a marriage is about, and what it could be, and want to get the spouse on-board.
However, they are wisely concerned that telling a spouse might cause a strong negative reaction.
Unfortunately, we often have a need to rebel against anything someone tells us, especially a spouse! This is especially true when there is conflict.
So, here are my thoughts: 1) if both of you are on-board that there is a problem, and both are looking for a solution, by all means, share.
2) if your spouse knows there is a problem, but wants nothing to do with a solution, DO NOT SHARE IT. Instead, live it! Take the information, and allow yourself to be transformed. This often becomes contagious, and the other either naturally shifts, or at least wants to know what is up. Then share at that point.
3) this is the gray area. The spouse may know there is a problem, wants things to change, but is skeptical that things can. At this point, you may want to observe that you have gained a new understanding of marriage, and then say that you found it in my ebook (or in the ecourse), and let it sit. Allow the other person to become curious about it. You have SHARED what has helped you, but have not PRESSURED the other person to try it out. This makes a huge difference in the other's willingness to be open to the informaion.
If you have not yet grabbed your copy of my ebook, Save The Marriage (and the very special reports), I invite you to get it now. You will find out what others are discovering: it really can make a shift in your thinking.
Go now to: ==> Save The Marriage <== By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
I hope you got some help there! I have really thought about the question a great deal lately, and hope you can use the information.
Best wishes.
Faithfully, Lee Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
P.S.: Again, if you haven't already, take the chance to make the shift right now, while you are thinking about it.
Save The Marriage
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