Sexy Spiritual Relationships: Scenario 2 - Bad Love

Your relationship has become stale and the passion has gone out of it. You find yourself doubting your commitment to stay together. The relationship has become hard work and the benefits are few and far between. You have lost touch with your love and wonder if your partner still loves you. The sex has become repetitive, predictable and boring, or even worse, painful and embarrassing. In fact it is rapidly dwindling to no sex at all--and a part of you is actually relieved at that! When you do have sex it is fast sex (10-15 minutes start to finish) with little or no emotional connection and devoid of spiritual value.

You are both so busy with the many demands of your busy lives that you can't remember the last time you spent 4 hours or more just paying attention to each other as lovers. Everything else has become more important than your relationship, including the kids, work, and shamefully, even watching television! You may also be dealing with some serious health challenges, but you know that you are too young for that to be happening already. By the end of a busy day, you both drop exhausted into bed and hope the other one will just go to sleep and not expect any sexual performance because you simply have nothing left to give them except frustration and disappointment.

Possibly one or both of you have already had an affair. You wonder about the dangers of STDs and if your partner has been careful, or you are feeling guilty knowing that you have not been so careful. You realize that unprotected sex means that you are sleeping with everyone your partner has ever slept with, and you have no idea of who are how many that may have been. Nevertheless, you feel somewhat powerless to resist the temptation of an affair because it offers a bit of quick excitement, pleasure and comes with none of the emotional, psychological and spiritual baggage attached to your marriage (or relationship with your current partner).

You are feeling overwhelmed, unattractive, and unlovable, at the breaking point with frustration, alienation, isolation and loneliness. You are feeling angry most of the time, about everything, and about nothing at all. You are constantly judging your partner for all the faults you perceive them to have--but even knowing this is mostly just projection from yourself onto them and that it is unfair to them, you can't seem to help yourself.

You are arguing frequently, and the personal attacks during your arguments are escalating. You are feeling more and more powerless to turn things around and do not know where to begin. You are becoming numb to your feelings, feeling less and less, other than the anger, and find yourself wondering if you will ever again feel excited, aroused and sexually turned on by your life partner. You are becoming desperate to find something to help you try to turn this around before it is to late.

Could the best of your life already be over? NO! Definitely not!
You can turn this around. Find the help you are looking for at Sexy Spiritual Relationships membership website, hosted by Al Link and Pala Copeland.